I Guess I’ll Go Eat Worms: Dealing with “failure”

I think one of the most important things to know as a camgirl is how to look at a lack of success from an objective standpoint. Being able to separate yourself from your failures to a certain degree will enable you not only to avoid unnecessary emotional suffering, but it’ll also allow you to grow in ways that you wouldn’t have otherwise.

There is an element of chance to MFC. You are going to need to learn to handle chaos, whether that’s by coping emotionally or financially. Sometimes you bring your A-Game and get jack shit. Sometimes you really put yourself out there and no one shows up. Sometimes this happens once in a while, sometimes this happens a bunch of times in a row. The reality of the job is that there are going to be days that suck dick and the only thing you can do about it is handle yourself accordingly. Like I’ve said before, you can’t make people tip. You can’t adjust your own rank. You can’t raise your own camscore. All you can do is try to be your best self and hope that your viewers will contribute.

My advice is this: if you’re crying on slow days because you’re convinced that it’s your hair or your teeth or your outfit or your voice or your love handles or your lack of tits or whatever other nitpicky detail you’ve decided to blame the lack of tokens on, stop.Remember that you still had that nitpicky detail on days where you did make tons of tokens. If it didn’t bother you when you were celebrating, it shouldn’t bother you when you’re not in such a good mood. You are the same you on days where you succeed and days where you don’t.

It’s understandable to want to make as much time as possible for MFC because the more time you’re able to spend online, the better your chances of making tokens. That said, if MFC has repeatedly not worked out for you, and you’re starting to barely scrape by, don’t let the glitter of possibility stop you from protecting yourself and your life. Not everyone will be successful on cam and if you’re digging yourself a debt hole from waiting around for MFC to work, stop. You can still cam around waitressing shifts. You can always quit a part time job if MFC catapults you into financial success. If this financial situation doesn’t sound like yours, and MFC really is treating you well enough to pay your bills, feed yourself and save a little bit for the future, then coping with failure isn’t your focus: it’s your ability to be grateful for what you’re fortunate enough to have. That sounds blunt as fuck, but it’s true. It’s important to set personal goals and great to celebrate when you reach those goals, but it’s counterproductive to waste energy crying over “failures” that aren’t actually failures.

Brush yourself off. Pull your socks up. Go for a walk and eat some good food and come back when you’re feeling refreshed. The only thing you can count on in the cam world is yourself, so you may as well be as positive, appreciative and determined as can be, right?

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